We are Mikey and Julia! Thank you for taking the time to read our story and consider us as prospective parents. We live near Grand Rapids, Michigan. Mikey grew up less than half an hour from where we live now, while Julia grew up outside of Atlanta, Georgia. Julia and her cat moved to Michigan in 2014 to work at a summer camp year round and met Mikey online shortly after getting settled in.
Despite our origins varying vastly, we found ourselves meeting the person we would learn best to complete each other. We found that every trial, hardship, achievement, and memory made was just the prologue to a lifelong adventure we would embark on together.
We moved in together in 2016 and were married 18 excruciatingly long months later in 2017.
As we met at the end of the aisle, celebrated by our 15 nieces and nephews, family, God-family, and friends, we heard the words, “It is clear that the feeling of joy and love in this room is palpable.” Our dreams of committing to each other, leaving nothing on the table, establishing ourselves as a team, and starting the journey to build our family had begun. Our entire relationship thus far let us dream of our family, how many children we hoped to adopt, and what our family activities and adventures would look like.
We are so incredibly grateful to be at this point and are so excited to welcome a child into our family through adoption!
Expectant mothers who choose to make an adoption plan may qualify for some level of financial assistance during their pregnancy. However, each person's situation and specific needs are different. Your adoption social worker can help you determine what level of assistance you qualify for and deserve. Many expectant mothers qualify for financial assistance to cover basic pregnancy and living expenses, including but not limited to - transportation reimbursement, utility assistance for phone, water, and electricity/gas, maternity clothing and supplements, etc.
Navigating a pregnancy alone is never easy. Depending on your situation and location, you may qualify for financial assistance to help cover the cost of basic living expenses, such as food and groceries.
Receiving quality medical care during your pregnancy is vital to both your health and the health of your baby. If you choose to place your baby for adoption, all of your pregnancy-related medical expenses will be covered by the adoptive family.
Women who choose to place their baby for adoption may receive financial assistance to help cover the cost of rent and utilities. If you feel that you’ll need some help with these costs, it’s important to talk to your adoption social worker about it early in the process. Each expectant mother’s situation is different, and eligibility may vary.
In order to have a healthy pregnancy, it’s important that you have everything you need to lead a healthy lifestyle. Like food and groceries, the cost of some household items - like feminine and dental care items, along with prenatal supplements - may be covered during your pregnancy.
Placing a baby for adoption is a loving, but incredibly challenging decision to make. Many women experience an array of emotions during this time and find that counseling is very helpful in navigating those feelings. If you would like to receive counseling during or after your pregnancy, that can be arranged by your adoption social worker. The cost of counseling will be covered by the adoptive family or adoption organization.
If you need assistance with transportation, your adoption social worker can work with you to find the best solution. You may eligible for assistance with transportation costs or be connected with a transportation service to utilize during your pregnancy.
It won't cost you anything. If you choose to place your baby for adoption, all of your medical and legal fees will be covered and you may be eligible for financial assistance with other pregnancy-related expenses.
Yes. Even if you don’t know the identity of the birth father, you can still choose to make an adoption plan. However, every adoption situation is different. The adoption social worker you’re assigned to will get to know you and your story first, and then guide you through the process accordingly.
You can make an adoption plan at any point in your pregnancy, even after the baby has been born. But, it's important to start the process as early in your pregnancy as possible. Connecting with those resources will allow you to gain access to important medical services, including prenatal care, to help ensure a healthy pregnancy.
One aspect of your adoption plan is the "Hospital Plan" an outline of how you'd like your hospital stay and delivery to go. You can craft this on your own or with the help of your adoption social worker. But everything is up to you. You’ll be able to choose who comes to the hospital with you, who is in the room with you during delivery, and how much time you’d like to spend with the baby before signing the final papers.
As part of your adoption plan, you'll determine whether or not you’d like to have an open or closed adoption or something in between. Open adoptions may include phone calls, messaging (via social media, email, or text), and/or periodic visits each year. Closed adoptions may include no contact at all or annual updates provided to the birth parent(s) by the adoptive family. Each post-adoption relationship is different and can vary based on what an expectant mother chooses in her adoption plan.
Julia likes to say Franklynn Delano Roosevelt chose her when they met in 2013. Julia went to "just look" at adopting a cat before locking eyes with Frankie. It was love at first sight. Frankie's demeanor said "Good. You're finally here. I am ready to go home." Julia met with a few other cats to make sure Frankie was "the one", but the adoption shelter volunteers agreed she was my girl. Today, Frankie is around 11 years old and is the typical aloof cat who likes attention on her own terms. She enjoys her independence almost as much as she enjoys cat naps. She has claimed the queen sized bed in our guestroom as hers exclusively and is very excited to share it when baby comes home. We adopted Red Turbo Stripes (or Stripes for short) in 2018. Now, she is around 6 years old. At the time, Mikey had a black car with red stripes. Stripes's name is an homage to that car. We are convinced Stripes is part dog as she is vocal with her opinions and insists on attention when she wants it. Stripes's signature move is to slowly, casually put herself on your chest to block...
Before I share about my latest trip to Atlanta, I must introduce the Saras, sometimes called the Tri-Sara-Tops, but never called unoriginal. My maternal grandmother, mother, sister, and niece are all called Sara. Mom uses the nickname, Sally, and my niece uses a double name, Sara Kate. Kindness, love, and creativity must be passed down by name because it is describes all of them. In true Sally fashion, all she wanted for her birthday was to do something special for others. Sara Kate loves Frozen so we made plans for me to fly down and all of the girls to go see Frozen on Broadway at the Fox Atlanta. We wanted make it just a little bit more fun with costumes. Sara Kate sported her new Elsa dress, while Mom, Sara, and I tried our hand at Disney-bounding. This is when you wear an outfit inspired by a character without trying to look exactly like them. I was Anna and Sara was Sven. In the play, the trolls are swapped for the Hidden Folk and Mom dressed as one of them. When we got to the theater, we saw a lot of other costumes, but all on children. Being the...
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